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I don't know Charles H. Green. Never read his books. Never attended his speeches or visited his company. But I do read his blog.

Today, he has a brilliant post about how we all deal with each other. I don't want to steal his thunder by redoing what he has written, but in essence, he remakes pop psychology's "I'm OK; You're OK" into the far more valid:

"I'm an idiot, you're an idiot. So let's get over it, let's work together and let's do something great."
Then he gives this, which is what he sees as the true positives of this mindset:
  • We don't wast time posturing
  • There are no dumb questions
  • We are free to help each other
  • The Not-Invented-Here syndrome Disappears
  • We can seek each other's advice - and offer it freely
  • We can produce some really, truly, scary good work.
What really happens if we lower our expectations of each other and forgive each other now and in advance and often and set about accomplishing the remarkable? It's the goal, not the process, that counts, and it will be wonderfully messy along the way - and we'll have a great time and maybe achieve the fantastic.

There's freedom in being able to be an idiot. There's freedom in others who allow us to be idiots - and love us anyway. There's freedom in accepting the idiocy of others.

Conformists never change the world. Those "stupid" enough to try something different do change the world. Yes, it might look like idiocy in the process, but the results can be breathtaking.

I like to think we can keep the edge. A Netscape programmer in the heady early days of Web 1.0 wrote, "We come into this world naked, bloody and screaming; but if you play your cards right, it doesn't have to stop."
Exactly!

 


by Brett Rogers, 1/15/2007 7:41:40 AM
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Thanks for the lead on a great blog Brett! All this, "You're an idiot, I'm an idiot" stuff sounds like the way to happy, healthy marriages and family relationships in general.

I've always thought that those who are the most healthy realize they are really sick. Nice to be validated....but staying humble in my "rightness" just the same.

 

 

Posted by Sherry Borzo, 1/15/2007 9:01:40 AM


Re: Sherry Borzo's (Anpnymous) comment:
"I've always thought that those who are the most healthy realize they are really sick."

Many of these folks really live the "appearance" of healthy..mostly on the outside....on the inside is often a caldron of upset and low-grade-fever-type of irritation and angst created by self-images that I am "not enough" in some way, shape or form and that "it's not OK to be 'not enough'." So, a lifelong struggle to make one's self "healthier and healthier" to reach some ideal....not being aware that trying to be a "10", what psychologists call an "ego ideal" is impossible...and unwilling to be less than a "10", they strive and struggle...living with a deeper sadness and anger all along their journey...the lucky ones finally "get it"..albeit after some type of Universal tug on their sleeve i.e., severe illness or dis-ease, accident, firing or loss of job, divorce, emotional or mental challenges , etc.

 

 

Posted by peter vajda, 1/16/2007 11:03:20 AM


Is this you, Peter?

I think it's abundantly obvious that any of us are not "enough." No one can be perfect for all occasions. I like what Sherry says in that she embraces the imperfect creature that each of us is.

I agree that loss can awaken a person to understand that idiocy is universal. But I think it's more just facing the facts. The fact is that I am inadequate in areas. That I'm not 100% all the time. That I have my moments of panic and fear and insecurity. If I know that and realize that I'm just like everyone else that way, then I am more likely to champion idiocy in relationships.

You have a blog? Or if I've correctly found you, would these articles serve a blog-like function? Either way, thanks for stopping by :)

 

 

Posted by Brett Rogers (http://www.beatcanvas.com), 1/16/2007 12:00:37 PM


yes, Brett, that's me...

agree..that we are who we are...embracing it, however, does not need to keep one from moving towards self-actualization, moving forward in one's journey.....given that the amibitions, goals, visions, etc., that guide us emanate from our Inner Source, from "within" rathe than from "without" (ego); from this place, an ego-less place, seeing the interconnectedness between and among folks allows for greater acceptance of ourself and one another...it's called true and real authenticity...showing up...warts and all, fears and joys, anxieties and happiness....and it's all OK.

No blog...and my articles would very readily serve a blog-like fucntion.

Peace.

 

 

Posted by peter vajda, 1/16/2007 12:33:09 PM



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