For me, I've found that life never turns out like I expect it will. Almost nothing is in my control. The only thing I can do is be true to myself, and make the best decision I can for me and for those around me. Sometimes, that's not easy.
I had an opportunity yesterday to remind my son, Tate, that the hardest thing is life is to see things as they really are. He struggled with a personal situation, and none of it was in his control. None of us can truly peer into the souls of others and determine their motives or ambitions. Being ignorant of what's going on outside our vision begs our mind to fill in the blanks, but in truth, we don't know what's going on. The truth can eventually reveal itself, and it's best if we remain in a position where we can receive it for the truth that it is and not convince ourselves in the meantime of something that isn't true.
Sanity, by definition, is a healthy mind. Our mind is only as healthy as what we put into it. If we stuff it with things that aren't true and real, then we can't be sane.
Sanity is all about true vision. And sometimes waiting to see what's true is agonizing, but it is the sane thing to do.