If the government should stay out of a person's "private life" then why did this issue need to be changed at all. Marriage is not an issue that needs redefinition now after thousands of years.
If you support the constitution as you claim to do then you have no right standing on this issue. Only those who are wishing to revise history AND the constitution are the ones gaining any ground in the arena of the same-sex marriage debate. Because history and the constitution must be revised to accomodate the allowance of same-sex marriage.
Ultimately what I see from those in support of same-sex marriage is that they hold to certain tenents:
1. There are no objective, God-given standards of law, or if there are, they are irrelevant to the moden legal system.
2. Since God is not the author of law, the author must be man; in other words, the law is law simply because the highest human authority, the state (or the Supreme Court), has said it is law and is able to back it up.
3. Since man and society evolve, therefore law must evolve as well.
4. Judges, through their decisions, guide the evolution of law.
Here is the reality, to uphold an ideal like same-sex marriage, all of the above must be true. I say unequivocally that the above are not true.
Law, and all objective standard comes from God. To argue otherwise is nonsense. And it is certainly the original intent of our country's founding fathers. Therefore the ONLY acceptable way to embrace and adopt laws that support same-sex marriage is to revise and nullify our constitution.
And, I would add, that you claim that republicans are attempting to legislate individual behaviors in some areas and not in others...how can you not see this as a legilation of individual behavior (behavior being the choice word, mind you)? For it is NOT an issue of civil liberty...it IS an issue of behavior.