I've always said that desire is 90% of success. I just want to clarify that. There are some really lazy people who "desire" a lavish lifestyle. But their "want" is not desire - only wish. Wish has nothing to do with success because there is no effort behind it. It's as though they expect it to fall from the sky or from the coffers of other people. No, no. If you're not willing to work for something, you don't truly want it. This is especially true in relationships - although the relationship can only be as strong as the person with the weakest desire. Want is not a bad thing. True want will propel us toward work and persistence, which most often leads to some level of achievement and reward. Wish without work is a bad thing. It leads to jealousy and bitterness and relies on magical thinking. |